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How To Build Healthy Relationships That Are Happy and Distraction Free

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Fostering Authentic, Distraction-Free Relationships

Chances are you’ve experienced the following: You’re with a small group of friends at a nice restaurant. Everyone is enjoying the food and conversation when someone decides to take out his phone — not for an urgent call, but to check email, Instagram, and Facebook.

I used to do nothing in the face of indiscriminate gadget use. Now, I’ve come to believe that doing nothing is no longer O.K. Staying silent about bad technology habits gets in the way of creating and sustaining healthy relationships. Now is the time to take a stand. By better understanding the psychology behind our technology, we can put it in its place. In the end, technology should serve us — we should not serve it.

This is an excerpt from an earlier article, which can be found here.

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